Happy Women's Month

 

International Women’s Day

Today is International Women’s Day and it dawned on me that in the past couple of years, mind you I only recently just became aware of this day. But let us stay on track I realized that on this day the many images I see are about celebrating women’s successes their achievements and all. Which isn’t necessary a bad thing but it  stirred up thoughts of my beliefs and non-beliefs on what is success.

Growing up I had an image of what success would look like for me, I even went as far as how I would feel when that moment arrived. But somehow every time I achieved something in life how I expected it to feel and what it actually was were two contrasting things and being in this tech world that in itself was a rollercoaster ride. Success in my mind was defined by so many beliefs that I now realize were a function of so many factors that include societal expectations, cultural expectations as well as learned beliefs from those around me. And over the years when this day has come I am filled with a myriad different types of emotions and feelings which I try to formulate into one whole entity, whilst being at peace with it. One thing that I am certain about though is that I saw success as being a state/place where one arrives to.

This past year has given me a lot of experiences with which to re-examine these beliefs, because I seemed to always be beating myself about being in motion rather than having arrived. Interesting enough whilst in motion t I have also met some women along the way who according to society may not have arrived in the destination called success they have inspired me immensely by just being and  consistently showing up as themselves in every season of their lives. Then like any aha moment I became aware of how my definition of worth and success was based on what I could and could not do, what I have and not have achieved. Instead of my being the being that God so lovingly created, that is a woman.  So to every woman that I have come across in my life time Happy International Women’s Day I celebrate you.